Emotionally Focused Therapy is one of the most effective methods of helping couples create a lasting connection. Research indicates that 70 – 75% of couples move from distress to recovery and 90% show significant improvement. EFT is considered one of the best new therapies of the past 25 years. It’s short-term, structured therapy; however, some complex situations, such as dealing with affairs and alcoholism or past traumas, take longer to address.
Sue Johnson, one of the originators of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy describes it best:
“A relationship is a dance – and the rhythms and habitual steps of the dance have their own momentum and can take over. In EFT we look at the dance you are caught in and how it leaves you both hurting and frustrated. We help you step out of your negative dance and create a new dance that is safer, closer and more satisfying. We talk about emotions a lot because they are the music of the dance – we help you understand the signals you send that might make it hard for your partner to come close, and help you send new emotional signals that pull your partner towards you and help you dance together – in harmony.”
The EFT Process:
How will we know when therapy is complete?
At the end of therapy, couples report that they:
· Can discuss difficult issues
· Reach out to each other and repair the relationship after an argument
· Have a deeper understanding of their partner’s vulnerabilities and can now better support their partner
· Feel safe and secure in their relationship – they can count on their partner to be there for them
· Feel they have recreated the trust and closeness they once felt for each other
· They experience an improvement in emotional, physical and sexual intimacy
Wendy is a Certified EFT Therapist. For more information or an appointment call Wendy Trainor at 416.204.0336 or email Wendy.
To learn more about EFT, visit www.iceeft.com.